"There Never Was" - I believe you, Anthony.

Canthony was once very addicting and used to be fun, I must admit! There were pretty convincing rumors going around that Anthony Fedorov and Carrie Underwood were indeed having a secret romance during the Summer and Fall of 2005. At first, it was pretty innocent, mostly gossipy fun and speculations on any Canthony sightings or news from the Tour. The best part of it was that it seemed that Anthony and Carrie were in on the fun and started madly flirting with each other onstage.

Unfortunately, the fun turned into an unhealthy obsession after their tour ended and it all got very out of hand. Fact is, during the last few months of 2005, I got swept up and too emotionally involved, believed whacked out theories - many of them my own, rumors and insider information from untrustworthy people. I had also said and done things that I now wish I hadn't. I don’t need to say anything more - many of have been there, remember, and have the same regrets.

The purpose of this post isn't to make fun of people who believed in Canthony once and might even still believe that Carrie and Anthony are carrying on a secret romantic relationship to this day. Why? For one thing, I like a few of them and hope aren't too disappointed all over again when Carrie and/or Anthony each find someone special - and that will happen at some point. Second, I once fervently believed myself and will not wash my hands of that.

Why did I once believe? Because I wanted it to be true and, ashamed to say, needed it to be true. Looking back, what I allowed myself to believe was pretty ridiculous. Canthony was later proven to be false and I felt pretty bad - worse than I should have. I have nobody to blame for that but myself. I re-learned a good few lessons....Believing in something does not make it true - if someone repeatedly denies a romantic relationship, save yourself the angst and trouble and believe what they say, and finally - don't get too emotionally involved in other people's relationships, worry about your own real life ones.

So why does this matter now, over a year later? It would be one thing if it were only people having fun making montages and blends, writing fanfiction and squeeing about Canthony going to the CMA's together, but that isn't what's happening. It seems to be just as serious an obsession for some as it was over one year ago. The saddest and most frustrating part is that even to this day, friendships - from the closest to the casual - have been changed and not for the better. Former friends are now suspicious of each other over this. Its not over something important like politics or even religion - its over a romantic relationship that no longer exists and Anthony & Carrie consistently state NEVER existed! It would be laughable, except that real people and feelings are involved.

The fact remains that Anthony and Carrie have told us by their words and actions that they are not romantically involved and likely never were. I can think of over 50 reasons to accept what they say, not BS insider information, third hand gossip or subjective gut feelings, just the facts and Canthony's own words. Interested? Check back later. ;)